WALKING INTO THE UNKNOWN

Have you ever walked into the unknown, I am sure we all have and we always do. But the question is how often are you comfortable?

I get scared most of the times walking into my own house in the dark when there is a power cut. the fear is mostly of unknown and the unknown takes many forms. Sometimes crashing into someone unknown, accidently breaking and loosing something I am very attached to or finding a monster under my bed or tripping and hurting myself and many more unknown fears. All the fears are due to the darkness, THE UNKOWN and we have no control over the unknown. Since there is no control, there is a fear. Control gives us power and confidence in ourselves.

Fear of meeting new people. Fear of being yourself as you might get judged in so many ways from inside out. Fear of falling in love anticipating the pain of breakup, fear of not been accepted by others, fear of asking questions. We live our whole life in fear, even if we don’t have fear, we create one for ourselves. Fear gives us more security then risking ourselves by opening up and accepting to the truth.

I had many fears, I feared making friends because they will judge me, for my looks, my opinions, my choices, my ideas, I think the whole of me for being me. I feared falling in love because of the pain that it comes with. I feared singing in front of others thinking I am terrible at it without even trying. Hence, I always feared walking on the path that was unknown to me. Unknown is scary.

I feared more to be with someone known than unknown, which is strange for most of us but that’s true.

The more they knew me the more I felt uncomfortable.

My fear was not of getting exposed to them but it was about I am already exposed to them and they can very well take advantage of me.

Every other time I would face them, I would shrink. I would close myself towards them, as if they are telling me we know you, we know want you want, we know your dirty desires, your secrets, we know what you are deep down so you better be sacred of us, you better surrender, you better give up, don’t fight. They made me feel I am weak just because I opened up to them. I opened up to them so that they accept the way I am, they see the real me and not someone with the mask on, but unfortunately, we all like the ugly truths covered with beautiful masks. At least they give us a momentary joy, because we are also living superficial lives. We even don’t want to accept the ugly faces of our own so we wear mask.

So, people with mask like others also with mask because they are also scared of facing the truth, the goodness of others. Goodness can be scary so we don’t want to face it, we want to run away from it and live in the fear the keep living in it until it becomes our reality.

Fear can take forms, the more it changes forms the more we feel vulnerable, we feel helpless. We keep dwelling in the same patterns again and again and there is no escape.

Sometimes fear comes with experiences and sometimes it’s the conditioning. Sometimes it comes when we stop loving ourselves and self-doubts sets in. This is the most dangerous fear and most difficult to get rid of. We don’t need reasons to fear as we start creating reasons within self, no other person involved, no outside world involved, it’s just us and we are enough to create our own world of fear. And then it becomes a game for us and we keep playing it without knowing the fact that we are moving towards our own destruction.

How to work on fear? Can we come out of it? First, we must change the conditioning, exposing ourselves to the risks in life, challenging ourselves in the situations that are fearful. Giving ourselves a positive boost for making small goals to overcome it. Accepting that this fear is a part of us. Realizing that it is an emotion and it can be changed, working on it to change it into a positive emotion.

Ask yourself what can it do to you at the max. Find the logic in it and you will realize there is no logic to fear, its logic less and baseless creation of mind.

Fear is instantaneous but it can it can have deep rooted effect. It can affect our nervous system tremendously and the whole body can go topsy-turvy. It can disconnect the Body and the Mind. It has a potential to change one’s personality completely from a bright successful person to a dead neurotic and psychotic person.

Treat your fears with Response and not Reactions. Relax your Body and Mind, take time to think and find how you should respond to it are few solutions that you can look into. I am a little superficial here while writing them but one can dive deep and find out how. My agenda is to express my thoughts here and your agenda should be finding your solutions 😊.

Find your fears and face them.

Start walking into the unknown, so what if you stumble, so what if you mumble, scream, cry, hurt yourself, fail 100 times. Do whatever it takes and come out of it.

Throw away that mask of yours forever and be the authentic you.

The authentic may not always be beautiful but it will sustain. And we know who sustains.

THE FEARLESS !!!